Let No One Define You on Your Behalf

There are some people who think that they can "read" others.

They claim to be able to analyse people on first impressions, without any precedence. What do I mean by precedence?

I mean process.

To get to know a human being in fullness is impossible, because each human being is a massive universe (even though they themselves might have limited themselves and refuse to explore inner space). While we cannot know someone fully, we can get to know people, and in order to get to know people, we need to embark on a process of relating with them.

The process of relating with someone and getting to know them takes time. It requires mutual give-and-take. It requires mutual honesty. And more...

I had an experience with someone who claims to not need this process in order to "see" into people.

This is not the first time I meet an individual like this.

In my experience, such an individual tries to define others on their behalf (without being asked), and is often not shy about speaking his opinion out loud. He may even say a few things that are "accurate", but one should avoid becoming fascinated with them. His words can be harmful if one takes them to heart.

Many of these "types" of individuals are looking to dominate others and impress a sense of superiority over others. How? By getting you to think that they know you better than you know yourself. This is a recipe for confusion in your mind. And a confused mind is easily dominated.

Getting impressed with them is like getting impressed with a teenager who does a cool card trick in front of you (once you take the teen's arms and ask him to show you the trick behind the trick, it is no longer so cool).

One shouldn't take their words seriously. The point of this post is that we should not allow anyone else to define us. It is an infringement on our sovereignty when someone tries, especially when we have not asked for it.

Whenever someone whom we don't know tries to define us, we should protect our minds with the knowledge that those who claim to know and do not explain how they know, are sheep in wolve's clothing (fools)... and some of them are sharks in dolphin's skin.

Best strategy?

Disengagement.